To all my dear clients/friends, wishing you health and safety in these anxious times.

I would be glad to offer any kind of support that might be useful to you, whether it’s coaching by phone or video, strategizing possible virtual workarounds, or simply listening.

In the meantime, here are some words of comfort and hope about self-compassion and COVID-19 from Drs. Chris Germer and Kristin Neff.  I hope that we can all find compassion, self-compassion, and expansive hearts as we navigate the unknown together.

Black Lives Matter


And here is a Wendell Berry poem that is helping me right now:

When despair grows in me
and I wake in the night at the least sound
in fear of what my life and my children’s lives may be,
I go and lie down where the wood drake
rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.
I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought
of grief. I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting for their light. For a time
I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.

~ Wendell Berry

What I Do for You

Help you achieve more and lead a more purposeful life

Customized Workshops and Training: Amplify your efforts 

Professional coaching: make the change you desire

Strategic Planning and Organizational Effectiveness: Advance Your Goals

I can help!
Call me at 301-980-7492.
Email me at hilarie@hilariegaylin.com  

Customized Workshops and Training


Need help training your people remotely?

I can design and conduct your virtual learning experiences by webinar and videoconferencing.  


Two-hour class? Multi-day workshop? Something in between?  You tell me your desired outcomes, then I create  material tailored just for you and your people, your circumstances, your challenges and opportunities.

Topics include, but are not limited to, the following:

Leadership and Management Communication Employees and the Organization
Leading through crisis and change

Meeting facilitation, including remote meeting facilitation

Resilience/stress management

Managing remotely

Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® / DiSC®

Change management

Performance management/manager as coach

Emotional intelligence

Teamwork and team building

Employee engagement

Business writing and grammar

Time management


Active listening/ effective feedback

Generations in the workplace


Presentation skills

Professional development

Strategic planning

Train-the-trainer / train-the-facilitator

Creativity and innovation

Don’t see what you’re looking for?  Just ask!

 301-980-7492.  hilarie@hilariegaylin.com

“Hilarie Gaylin was an absolute delight to work with! Our training was led with a very interactive and high energy feel, which kept our team involved throughout the entire time. She executed our topic at hand very professionally, while also sharing personal experiences which allowed our staff to feel comfortable enough to share themselves. Hilarie is a very elegant speaker and definitely knows her audience!

From the moment I initially spoke to Hilarie to the actual training day, I was kept involved with every detail for the training so I was fully aware of what to expect. I never had any issues with her regarding communication either as I knew she was a quick phone call or email away at all times. I would highly recommend Hilarie for any speaking/training opportunity! I will definitely be reaching out to her again should a new training opportunity arise within our organization. – Supreet Aulakh”

“I first met Hilarie Gaylin when she was a member of an elite group of professionals assembled by the prestigious Federal Judicial Center to train and coach other court training specialists nationwide.  Her experience and smooth, clear delivery lend strong credibility to her well-organized presentations.  She develops great rapport with the audience, and sparks interest in her topic, whether soft-skill or technical.  She has always been in great demand both as a trainer and as a collaborator with training colleagues, for good reason. I recommend her highly and collaborate with her on projects at every opportunity, for both government and private sector clients.”  – Danny Kuhn, http://favoritetrainers.com

Professional Coaching

Helping you live your life on purpose.

All coaching can be done by phone or video.

What would it be like to have someone really listen to you?
You ARE. . .
High Achieving
Goal Oriented
Mission Driven


Do you

  • Want to make a bigger impact?
  • Worry about disappointing people, including yourself?
  • Lack confidence? Secretly believe you’re an impostor?
  • Feel overwhelmed?
  • Need to get more done but are not sure how?
  • Struggle to find your way forward amid setbacks and disappointments?
  • Hear a voice inside of you that says you can’t or you shouldn’t?
  • Wish to show up more authentically?
  • Dream of work that aligns more closely with your values and purpose?
You are not alone.  

 What if you could feel more confident, cut through the noise, and achieve more—with the investment of only a couple of hours a month?

What if you could connect more readily with the best parts of you?

Coaching can help you navigate and get where you want to go faster and more sure-footedly.

Figure out what’s next and how to get there.  I’ll hold the map.

Not sure if coaching is right for you?

Try a FREE 30-minute phone or video session to see what you think.

Check out my welcome video here.

Day and evening appointments available.

Geography doesn’t matter, since the vast majority of my clients coach with me virtually, by phone or video.  It really works, and scheduling is much easier.

From client RJ: “My coaching experience with Hilarie has been fantastic and couldn’t have come at a better time. I was skeptical about how much I could benefit from this coaching experience, but with Hilarie’s help, I was able to appreciate my strengths and talents as well as to identify areas that needed change and growth. Hilarie provided practical tools and the guidance I needed. She was patient and supportive every step of the way and helped me tackle challenges and form new and effective means of making positive changes and achieving success. My only regret is that I didn’t find Hilarie sooner!”

From client JG: “Thanks to Hilarie and her thoughtful and extremely helpful coaching, I am a survivor. I started working with Hilarie two years ago when I was going through some personal issues that were holding me back in my life. Very shortly in my tenure with Hilarie, I started to make major strides. Then, the unexpected happened and within eight months we lost two pregnancies. The first pregnancy was lost at 18 weeks and the second pregnancy was lost at almost 10 weeks. As you can imagine these were life events that I feared I wouldn’t make it through. However, my coaching with Hilarie and my ability to help myself with the tools that I gained during my sessions with her, I have become more resilient than I ever imagined I would. She was not only there for me during the sessions that were scheduled, but she constantly reached out to me in between sessions not only to make her presence known in my life, but with genuine care and concern for how my family and I were doing. I swear that if I did not have Hilarie and coaching in my life during that time, I truly do not know where I would be now. I continue to work with Hilarie and I use it as my “tune-up” in life. We are so quick to pay attention to things like cars, fill their tanks, make sure they have oil, etc. yet we hesitate at times to fill up our own tanks and to get that tune-up we may so desperately need. So even when things are going great in my life, my sessions with Hilarie act as that tune-up at that I need to keep me on track. I have grown leaps and bounds in the past two years. I am so grateful to have her as my coach. If any of you are looking for a way to shift and change your life in the most positive of ways, Hilarie is definitely your coach.”


301-980-7492.    hilarie@hilariegaylin.com    

Strategic Planning/Organizational Effectiveness



How do you keep your organization going through change and upheaval?

Design your path.

I can help–and we can do it remotely!

  • Help your people through change and uncertainty.
  • Plan for your organization’s future.
  • Create a vision—and figure out how to execute it.
  • Align performance with your vision.
  • Set and achieve your goals.
  • Build your team.
  • Improve your processes.
  • Strengthen morale.

Don’t see what you’re looking for?  Just ask!

301-980-7492.    hilarie@hilariegaylin.com

“Hilarie has deep knowledge of OD theory and practice which she applies expertly in her work.  She is adept drawing from her experience and knowledge base as she illuminates OD principles and applies them in her training delivery, content development, or group facilitation.  When working with Hilarie, one feels immediately that she is a pro, yet she is exceedingly modest.  She listens intently and processes quickly, connecting ideas and concepts.  Hilarie is also highly collaborative.  I felt her steady support as my partner in the design of the management training — always present with ideas and options, and keen to find solutions that fit the group’s needs.

“If all that were not enough, she is simply a kind, generous, positive person — a true joy to work with.  I will call on her again, often.”

–  Kate McCarry, Director, HR, The German Marshall Fund

About/Contact Me

Certified Coach.  Facilitator.  Trainer.  Organizational Consultant.

Inspiring change and strengthening achievement.   Helping people and organizations grow their best selves.

In customizing experiences to meet my clients’ unique needs, I draw on over 20 years of experience in facilitation, training, instructional design, speaking, organizational development, team coaching, and coaching.

Current clients  include individuals, nonprofits, local and federal government agencies, businesses, and trade associations.


“She has the insight of the experts with the personal touch of the most caring and understanding partner.  She understands organization and the people in it.”   – Heather Booth, Organizer and Founder, Midwest Academy

Experience includes

  • Senior instructional designer/trainer for the U.S. Senate Office of Education and Training
  • Training specialist for the U.S. Capitol Visitor Center
  • Director of education and training for the U.S. District Court, Eastern District of Virginia, Clerk’s Office

Learning includes

  • Coaching certification (CPCC) through CTI and ICF (ACC)  and professional training in organizational and relationship systems coaching (ORSC) through CRR Global
  • M.Ed., The George Washington University, and B.A., Bryn Mawr College


    Contact me

301-980-7492.    hilarie@hilariegaylin.com