To all my dear clients/friends, wishing you health, safety, and well-being in these anxious times.

I gladly offer any kind of support that might be useful to you, whether it’s coaching by video or phone, strategizing ways to manage people more effectively in a hybrid work situation, offering training or facilitation, or simply listening and helping you be present and resilient.

What I Do for You

Help you achieve more and lead a more purposeful life

executive coaching/ mentor coaching/ grief coaching / life  coaching: make the change you desire

Customized Workshops and Training: Amplify your efforts 

Strategic Planning and Organizational Effectiveness: Advance Your Goals

Here is a Wendell Berry poem that is helping me right now:

When despair grows in me
and I wake in the night at the least sound
in fear of what my life and my children’s lives may be,
I go and lie down where the wood drake
rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.
I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought
of grief. I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting for their light. For a time
I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.

~ Wendell Berry

How can I help you?

Call me at 301-980-7492.
Email me at hilarie@hilariegaylin.com  

Executive Coaching / Mentor Coaching / Grief Coaching / Life Coaching

Helping you live your life on purpose.

What would it be like to have someone really listen to you?
You ARE. . .
High Achieving
Goal Oriented
Mission Driven
Hard on yourself


Do you

  • Wrestle with self-doubt?
  • Worry about disappointing people?
  • Lack confidence in yourself? Secretly believe you’re an impostor?
  • Fight perfectionism? Hold yourself to impossibly high standards?
  • Feel overwhelmed?
  • Shove down feelings of grief or loss and tell yourself to just move on?
  • Need to get more done but are not sure how?
  • Struggle to find your way forward amid setbacks and disappointments?
  • Hear a voice inside of you that says you can’t or you shouldn’t?
  • Wish to show up more authentically?
  • Want to make a bigger impact?
  • Dream of work that aligns more closely with your values and purpose?
  • Wonder what your next career step could be?
You are not alone.  

 What if you could feel more confident, cut through the noise, and achieve more—with the investment of only a couple of hours a month?

From client KC, “Everything feels doable when I get off the call with you.”

What if you could connect more readily with the best parts of you?

Coaching can help you navigate and get where you want to go faster and more sure-footedly.

Figure out what’s next and how to get there.  I’ll hold the map.

From client MC, “I feel like weights are off my shoulders and I am ready to make progress after we talk.”

Do you need an ICF mentor coach?  I do that, too!

Not sure if coaching is right for you?

Try a FREE phone or video session to see what you think. 

Email hilarie@hilariegaylin.com to set up a time that works for you.

Appointments are available between 9:30 a.m. and 6:00 p.m. (Eastern), Mondays through Thursdays, and between 10:00 a.m. and 4:00 p.m. (Eastern) on Fridays.

We meet by video or phone, whichever you prefer, so geography doesn’t matter.

From client SK: ” Through coaching, I have developed confidence in trusting myself and in taking others into account while doing what I think is right.  I get to be my best version of a manager.”

From client CB:  “I am more energized at work when I can lead and inspire. Coaching has given space and a voice to me.”

From client JC: ” I challenged myself and am the better for it.  I have learned that when I set up boundaries and processes, I don’t need to rely completely on myself.  With strategic communication, I can hand over the reins more and focus on leading.”

From client KP: “I am now ready to start developing my own style that I know will make me the most successful leader I can be.  I wouldn’t have had this realization without her coaching and guidance.”

From client RR: “You were such a big help in getting my confidence back. I wasn’t afraid to be a better version of me.  Thank you for helping me over that hurdle and refining my skills, all while being true to myself as well. I  honestly wouldn’t have made this leap without you.”

From client TM: “Her listening is a creative force.  I am very thankful for her.”

From client CJ:  “Coaching with her has been an amazing journey and confidence builder.  She has helped me do some really hard things, and it has had a starburst effect.”

From client JP:  “These conversations helped me have a different mindset and approach.  I was surprised at how much they helped.  Coaching with her was so valuable.”

From client SC:  “I met Hilarie when I was given a long list of experienced coaches who were willing to work with a cohort of BIPOC individuals who were beginning certification. . . . Hilarie is not BIPOC, and I knew that when I chose her.

“From our first meeting, it was clear that Hilarie was the perfect coach for me.  I could see that there is something almost spiritual in the way she approaches her coaching work. . . . Simply put, Hilarie Gaylin is the coach you want when you are serious about getting unstuck, trained up and out of your own way.”

From client RJ: “My coaching experience with Hilarie has been fantastic and couldn’t have come at a better time. I was skeptical about how much I could benefit from this coaching experience, but with Hilarie’s help, I was able to appreciate my strengths and talents as well as to identify areas that needed change and growth. Hilarie provided practical tools and the guidance I needed.

“She was patient and supportive every step of the way and helped me tackle challenges and form new and effective means of making positive changes and achieving success. My only regret is that I didn’t find Hilarie sooner!”

From client JG: “Thanks to Hilarie and her thoughtful and extremely helpful coaching, I am a survivor. I started working with Hilarie two years ago when I was going through some personal issues that were holding me back in my life. Very shortly in my tenure with Hilarie, I started to make major strides. Then, the unexpected happened and within eight months we lost two pregnancies. The first pregnancy was lost at 18 weeks and the second pregnancy was lost at almost 10 weeks. As you can imagine these were life events that I feared I wouldn’t make it through. However, my coaching with Hilarie and my ability to help myself with the tools that I gained during my sessions with her, I have become more resilient than I ever imagined I would. She was not only there for me during the sessions that were scheduled, but she constantly reached out to me in between sessions not only to make her presence known in my life, but with genuine care and concern for how my family and I were doing. I swear that if I did not have Hilarie and coaching in my life during that time, I truly do not know where I would be now. I continue to work with Hilarie and I use it as my “tune-up” in life. We are so quick to pay attention to things like cars, fill their tanks, make sure they have oil, etc. yet we hesitate at times to fill up our own tanks and to get that tune-up we may so desperately need. So even when things are going great in my life, my sessions with Hilarie act as that tune-up at that I need to keep me on track. I have grown leaps and bounds in the past two years. I am so grateful to have her as my coach. If any of you are looking for a way to shift and change your life in the most positive of ways, Hilarie is definitely your coach.”

And here’s a gift from Mary Oliver.

by Mary Oliver

When I am among the trees,
especially the willows and the honey locust,
equally the beech, the oaks and the pines,
they give off such hints of gladness.
I would almost say that they save me, and daily.
I am so distant from the hope of myself,
in which I have goodness, and discernment,
and never hurry through the world
but walk slowly, and bow often.
Around me the trees stir in their leaves
and call out, “Stay awhile.”
The light flows from their branches.
And they call again, “It’s simple,” they say,
“and you too have come
into the world to do this, to go easy, to be filled
with light, and to shine.”

Professional Certified Coach (PCC)Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC)

301-980-7492.    hilarie@hilariegaylin.com    

Customized Workshops and Training


Need help training your people, in person or virtually?

I can conduct your  learning experiences either in person or via video.


Two-hour class? Multi-day workshop? Something in between?  You tell me your desired outcomes, then I create  material tailored just for you and your people, your circumstances, and your challenges and opportunities.

Topics include, but are not limited to, the following:

Leadership and Management Communication Employees and the Organization
Leading through crisis and change

Meeting facilitation, including remote meeting facilitation

Resilience/stress management

Managing remotely or via hybrid

Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® / DiSC®

Change management

Performance management/manager as coach

Emotional intelligence

Teamwork and team building

Employee engagement

Business writing and grammar

Time and priorities management


Active listening/ effective feedback

Work-life balance

Goal, expectations, and priorities setting/ delegation

Presentation skills

Professional development

Strategic planning

Train-the-trainer / train-the-facilitator

Creativity and innovation

Do you want to create and present your own workshop?  I can help.

Do you need a writing coach? I can help.

Don’t see what you’re looking for?  Just ask!

 301-980-7492.  hilarie@hilariegaylin.com

“I have had the pleasure of working with Hilarie on multiple occasions training large groups and small groups in topic areas from management, to professional communications, to different work styles.  In each of our engagements Hilarie puts the learners at ease, helps people to become better professionals, and improves the work environment.  I have engaged Hilarie in more than one organization and I go back because she is that effective.”

–  Tom Lopach, President and CEO, The Voter Participation Center

“Hilarie Gaylin was an absolute delight to work with! Our training was led with a very interactive and high energy feel, which kept our team involved throughout the entire time. She executed our topic at hand very professionally, while also sharing personal experiences which allowed our staff to feel comfortable enough to share themselves. Hilarie is a very elegant speaker and definitely knows her audience!

From the moment I initially spoke to Hilarie to the actual training day, I was kept involved with every detail for the training so I was fully aware of what to expect. I never had any issues with her regarding communication either as I knew she was a quick phone call or email away at all times. I would highly recommend Hilarie for any speaking/training opportunity! I will definitely be reaching out to her again should a new training opportunity arise within our organization.”

– Supreet Aulakh, Senior Accountant, HR & Operations, Solar Energy Trade Shows

“I’d really like to thank you for that session.  It has to be the best webinar/learning session I’ve ever attended!  It was simple to follow & chock full of information that I feel is attainable (vs. walking away & thinking. . . ‘now what?’).  So thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!!!”

–  Participant AM, about Growth Mindset 150-person webinar

“The webinar was engaging; I felt like an active participant, and not as if I was listening to a lecture or presentation.”

– Anonymous participant about Growth Mindset 300-person webinar

“I first met Hilarie Gaylin when she was a member of an elite group of professionals assembled by the prestigious Federal Judicial Center to train and coach other court training specialists nationwide.  Her experience and smooth, clear delivery lend strong credibility to her well-organized presentations.  She develops great rapport with the audience, and sparks interest in her topic, whether soft-skill or technical.  She has always been in great demand both as a trainer and as a collaborator with training colleagues, for good reason. I recommend her highly and collaborate with her on projects at every opportunity, for both government and private sector clients.”

– Danny Kuhn, Favorite Trainers,  http://favoritetrainers.com

Strategic Planning/Organizational Effectiveness



How do you keep your organization going through change and upheaval?

Design your path.

I can help–and we can do it remotely!

  • Help your people through change and uncertainty.
  • Plan for your organization’s future.
  • Create a vision—and figure out how to execute it.
  • Align performance with your vision.
  • Set and achieve your goals.
  • Build your team.
  • Improve your processes.
  • Strengthen morale.

Don’t see what you’re looking for?  Just ask!

301-980-7492.    hilarie@hilariegaylin.com

“Hilarie has deep knowledge of OD theory and practice which she applies expertly in her work.  She is adept drawing from her experience and knowledge base as she illuminates OD principles and applies them in her training delivery, content development, or group facilitation.  When working with Hilarie, one feels immediately that she is a pro, yet she is exceedingly modest.  She listens intently and processes quickly, connecting ideas and concepts.  Hilarie is also highly collaborative.  I felt her steady support as my partner in the design of the management training — always present with ideas and options, and keen to find solutions that fit the group’s needs.

“If all that were not enough, she is simply a kind, generous, positive person — a true joy to work with.  I will call on her again, often.”

–  Kate McCarry, Director, HR, The German Marshall Fund of the United States

About/Contact Me

“She has the insight of the experts with the personal touch of the most caring and understanding partner.  She understands organization and the people in it.”

– Heather Booth, Organizer and Founder, Midwest Academy

Certified Coach.  Facilitator.  Trainer.  Organizational Consultant.

To serve my clients, I create individualized engagements that specifically address each client’s unique needs.

Over 20 years of experience include

  • Executive coaching and leadership consulting for current clients
  • Senior trainer for the U.S. Senate Office of Education and Training
  • Training specialist for the U.S. Capitol Visitor Center
  • Director of education and training for the U.S. District Court, Eastern District of Virginia, Clerk’s Office

Professional credentials and learning include

  • Coaching certification: PCC through ICF and CPCC through CTI
  • Professional training in organizational and relationship systems coaching (ORSC) through CRR Global
  • MBTI certification
  • M.Ed., The George Washington University, and B.A., Bryn Mawr College

    Contact me

301-980-7492.    hilarie@hilariegaylin.com